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1) whas dslr ?

Digital Single-Lens Reflex

2) Patrick, it’s needelasole! You don’t remember me huh, from myspace? Remember when your ex or whatever had gotten upset because I left you a comment about the whole gas station + smiley face balloon = whatnot. Tell me you remember me, Lol.

of course i remember you, haha. we used to talk alott, i miss that.

3) So im a dancer. it’s like my passion. and in the dance world its like 99.9% asian. and im the 0.1% black. idk if its always being surrounded by asians but i find myself attracted to asian guys like big time! i really like this one guy but my friends say im crazy and he would never go for me because im blackk. it really hurt to hear that. especially because im mixed haha. I follow you on tumblr and you seem really deep so id love to have your opinion please?

if he’s not shady then he’ll look past your appearance, especially your ethnicity. the thing for me is, I’m attracted to personality waaay more than looks. so if a girl treats me good, then why not go for her? ethnicity shouldn’t get in the way of things, in this case; relationships. am i attracted to asian girls? most definitely. am i attracted to hispanic and white girls? absolutely. there’s tons of beautiful black women out there as well. to be honest, i’ve always wanted to date a hispanic or white girl but usually, i’m in the same boat as you; they don’t dig asian guys. i have friends who are in interracial relationships and they’re happy as can be. it just depends on the person. hopefull that helps.

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This beautiful world is filled with fucked up people.

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1) You’re handsome, let’s talk some time. yeah ?
i’d like to dig deeper into your thoughts.

haha, thank you. leave a name and we’ll work something out.

2) So there’s this guy, and I really like him. We talked and hung out a lot. I’m not really sure if he likes me back, but it kinda seems like he does. He makes plans with me, but the plans never pull through. And he always tells me, “Next time…” He stopped calling and texting me two weeks ago, and we haven’t talked since. I wanna know what’s up with him, but I don’t wanna bother him and stuff. Oh man, I don’t even know what’s the right question to ask you. Soooo?

“Next time” is one of the most common excuses I’ve heard. At first I would’ve told you that he’s probably busy with his personal life, so he doesn’t really have any free time. But not hitting you up for 2 weeks, not even a simple text or call? Sorry, but he’s simply just not interested in you anymore. If you really like someone, you wouldn’t push them off to the side for that long; no matter how busy you are.

3) you say if you are in a relationship, to accept the other person’s flaws. (such as drinking, smoking, partying and what not.) but what if these flaws are not good for them? and you care about them too much to let them do that to themselves? hope this makes sense.
obviously, its fine to accept when people make mistakes, since we’re not perfect. but how do you accept someone’s flaws when it could possibly hurt them?

yeah, it makes perfect sense. I’ve been in this situation plenty of times, and honestly, sometimes I don’t know what to do. I love who they are as a person, but they do things that I don’t really approve of. I guess this is where the quote “The prettiest people do the ugliest things” come into play. The best you could do is convince them that what they’re doing isn’t helping them in the long run. Sometimes, people are too stubborn to listen to you, even when you explain all the consequences. They’ll reach a certain point where they’ll get sick of it, and realize that it’s messing them up. You can’t change them directly, but if you have strong enough of an impact on them, they’ll change for the better; on their own.

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kinda late, but oh well.

1) So what are you thankful for? :)
Btw, do I really need to fill out my name?
Haha.

my family, mos. definitely.

2) i think you only say that you dont wanna have a girlfriend because you havent met the right girl that’ll make you feel good.

actually, yeah, you’re right.

3) em yeu anh(:

troi oiiiiiii, haha.

4) apart from music, are you an artist in any way?

sadly, no. i can’t draw for shit, haha.

5) You need to stop posting gooood shit. Haha. <3-xoxomary

mary, you needa take me out to sushi sometime. i’ve never had any and i always see your tweets, haha.

6) Who is that one person you tell everything to & why?
What is your method of understanding women who are more complicated more than usual?
When was a time you felt like running away from everything?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
How is your relationship with your parents?

i don’t have someone i can tell everything to, not anymore.

i jus try to see things from their perspective, everyone thinks and acts differently.

last year.

in medical school, pursuing my career.

my relationship with my dad isn’t the greatest, but i’m very close to my mom.

7) Can you speak chinese? If you can, which dialect? Cantonese? Mandarin?

nope. the only ones in my family that are chinese, are my grandpa and dad. my grandpa passed away, and i don’t see my dad very often. i can only speak vietnamese.

8) Hellooooo, Patrick! I like your posts about life and relationships, and I wanna ask if it’s okay if I just re-blog parts of them that had struck me the most? Don’t worry, I’ll put your name at the end. I won’t take the credit. Keep safe. :)

yeah for sure, no worries. haha.

9) youre very attractive, heh.

10) it seems like you have a crush on someone, whos the lucky girl? (;

yeah, but she’s interested in someone else. sall good thoe, i guess.

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Girls who give themselves up easily

are a huge turn off. You’re better than that, at least, I hope you are. You don’t have to throw yourself out in the open to get noticed.

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1) are you filipino?

nope, i’m vietnamese and chinese.

2) the things you write about are really profound. They get me thinking all the time, thanks =]

thanks :]

3) How many relationships have you been in? Do you like being single or having a girlfriend?

don’t worry bout ittt. to be honest, i’d rather stay single than be in a relationship, lol. i got enough on my plate already.

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Status.

Most people fail to realize the fact that you don’t need to be in a relationship to achieve happiness. Since when did obtaining happiness have to deal with another person? I’m pretty sure that there was some point in your life where you were completely happy, without being in a relationship. So why does that change all of a sudden? Sure, being involved in a relationship can bring happiness, I’m sure it does; I know it does. But, do not solely base your own happiness off of someone else. Don’t get me wrong, it’s always a pleasant and heartwarming feeling when you know that you have someone you can come home to, someone who you can call yours, someone who you know you can turn to when nobody else is there. But don’t let it get to the point where you will be nothing without them; do not be dependent on another person. Why do you think individuals who are independent, are usually the strongest? Be strong within yourself, and you will establish a strong relationship. Do not place your happiness in someone else’s hand; because what happens when that person cheats on you? What happens when that person isn’t there for you anymore, when you thought that they would always be by your side? When they leave you, so does your happiness. Love isn’t selfish. Don’t ever forget that. Make sure you are strong enough to pick yourself back up, when you get knocked down.

Some people are just jumping into relationships, throwing themselves out there, just for the sake of it. If you’re going out with someone who you find attractive, but you despise their personality, then what’s the point? You cannot fake true happiness, so why bother dealing with a fake relationship? Most likely, it isn’t going to work out in the end, anyways. You’ll be bitching about how big of an asshole your boyfriend was when you guys broke up; when you know damn right that he was already one from the very beginning. You could’ve saved yourself not only the time, but also the pain that you went through; if you had realized that they weren’t what you were looking for in the first place. You actually did realize it, but you were too foolish to admit it, when you knew that it was nothing more than mere infatuation. If you don’t find someone that you’re compatible with at the moment, why not just wait? Why not wait for that person to suddenly appear? You never know what life will bring you, everything is unexpected. Wait for that person, the one that will make you wonder, “Damn, where the fuck have you been my whole life?”

There may be that “missing piece” to you, but trust me when I say this; When you finally find that person, you will be so relieved that you waited. You will be so relieved that you didn’t get involved with someone else. If the feeling is genuine, then nothing can top that. You should always find someone who has your back, rather than someone who turns your head. It’s true what they say, “Appearance captures the eye, but the personality captures the heart.”

But most importantly: Love yourself, before you love someone else. If you don’t accept yourself for who you are, what makes you think that someone else will?

- Patrick Lam.